Sigh. Will I never learn? I just had a fight with my bestest friend, 5 minutes before prayer meeting, which she's supposed to lead. So - she's going into prayer pissed at me...I'm not even there at all...and I'm furious myself. But as usual, It's all my fault. It always is, right? I should have just kept my stupid mouth shut when she started talking about a mutual friend instead of sharing my thoughts about the church's attitude toward her. Does this woman need to grow up in a few things - yes, I don't deny that. But I think sometimes "tough love" can do more damage than good sometimes. That's just my opinion as I've been on the receiving end of this "tough love" and have had it totally mess me up for a while...like the time I was told of by a pastors whose church I was thinking of joining. You don't lift someone up by beating them into the ground. Do we need to not give negative attention to negative behavior? Absolutely...then why do we in prayer and call it ok? Were the words ok? Yes. This woman needs to have a more stable daily walk. Does she need to have the pastor's wife tone of voice cutting her down in a public setting while praying? I don't think so. Of course, this is just from my viewpoint...which I freely admit isn't always "right on"...so maybe I"m just over reacting. Of course. I was just kicked out of my bestest friends house...for refusing to share all this. It turned that way when I said, "you've yelled at me so many times for gossipping..." I never got to finish as she said to get out of her house. Well, she has. And here she is twisting my arm to share something I don't want to share. Perhaps I am the warped one after all.
The other night, the friend that I watch tv and movies with was sharing something she had learned from a MOPS meeting. About the two different types of friends. Since that discussion, I've realized that there are at least 2 more types of friends and goofball that I am, I thought I'd share it all with you! Don't you feel lucky and special? :) 1. Mushroom Friends : These friends spring up over night and are in our lives just for a season. Kind of like the friends I made in school. The season is way over as I didn't even get Christmas cards from them this year [yes, I sent them cards]. 2. Oak Tree Friends : These friendships develop slowly, starting out small and laying down deep root systems. They last forever no matter how far apart the friends grow; time, distance, oceans and death cannot break the bond of friendship. They are the kind that years after being out of communication, if they heard you were in trouble {death in family, illness, etc...} they would drop stuff
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