Thursday, February 01, 2007


Guys are little wierd. ok, a lot wierd.

So I'm talking to a new guy on IM...I don't have a problem talking with stranger online....I don't tell them any identifying info...playing it safe....and anyway, this guy is like talking a lot about sex....and I ask him if that is his only interest....he says "no, but I have needs." [where have I heard THAT before].

So I've been thinking ---- what about my needs? Not talking just sexual needs. I'm talking emotional. What about my need to feel secure in a relationship? What about my need to know that I am valued for more than my body? For that matter, what about my need to know that you value my body...that you think I'm beautiful, and not just pretty? What about my need to feel safe? Protected? Adored? --- cuz I'm pretty darn adorable ya know. Whatever climaxing during sex does for me----will not last if these other needs aren't met outside of the bedroom. In fact, if these other needs aren't met...they diminish the sexual's a distaster...because if all I'm getting is an orgasm...without anything emotional...all my insecurities raise their ugly head and I'm not even a nice person.

Think about that, guys...the next time you're getting your "needs" met...that the woman your with has other needs that must be met for her to want to keep hopping in the sack with you. So if you're not going to meet those other needs...get out of her bed. Well, at least mine.


Jean-Luc Picard said...

You had a weird one on IM there, Ciera. He openly tells you that he has 'needs'. We all have needs that stretch far outside the bedroom. You wrote it well.

Ciera said...

not if you consider that I was very bold and outright asked him if sex was all he was after. Easy to be bold on the computer! And you can't be too careful.

Jean-Luc Picard said...

A good strategy, rather than letting him meander around, trying not to tell you what he really wants.